|CHF 1500||Human Development|
Autonomy vs Shame & Doubt
Psychosocial Stage -
Developmental task for Toddlerhood Age
The wise adult will recognize this bold statement of "NO!" for what it is... an indicator that the child is developing a sense of "Autonomy". It is not an indicator of antisocial rebellious personality. This is simply a test of power and control. The wise adult will recognize this and foster a healthy sense of Autonomy. So... cellabrate it, encourage it, foster it... don't get impatient and punish it.
How do you foster Autonomy? ............. be an "Authoritative" parent.
Let the child win from time to time.
The controlling adult ("Authoritarian" adult) will often resent
the child's expressions of control and power and will respond with
punishment or statements of disgust and reproof. Often we can hear
these adults say things like, "Don't you talk to me like that young
man. Don't you dare say "NO" to me... Shame on you for being that
way." If the child consistently hears this type of communication,
he is at risk for developing the polarity of Shame
and Doubt. If
this happens, he is also at risk for healthy future development.